I have been avoiding writing this post for weeks at this point.
photo credit: Agwe, Marcigliano Photography

Outside of the reality that I’m busy, I have no other excuse for not writing this sooner.  For the past three months, I’ve been the mother of Agwe, the God of Water.  Now I must admit, it’s been kind of cool being the Mother of a God, but this came with some interesting challenges and moments of self-discovery.

Over the past four years, I have learned to allow my children the opportunity to explore their interests and passions as much as they would like.  This is a major part of our homeschool lifestyle.  The kids are free to explore their passions.  Cherrie knows more than the average person knows about cute fluffy animals of all types and well, Marshall knows more then the average person knows about all things Broadway.

 

Agwe enters our life

That brings us to our current journey.  Follow me in this condensed version of the past three months.  In August, Marshall asked to audition for “Once on this Island.”  In his words, “It’s just for audition experience mom.”  First very big lesson learned.  There is NO such thing as audition experience.  Parents, if your kids ever say this do not fall for it.  They have to be prepared for the role, you know in case they get it, like my kid did.  Now what I didn’t really know (at the time) was that Norm Lewis, who is one of Marshall’s idols, is on youtube singing “Rain” the one song my child wanted to sing.  His entire world was made when he was offered the role.

Let me interject right here what happened in MY world when this moment took place.  I started my Masters Degree program right around this time.  We were making a decision on where to live, do we leave where we are and move north or stay put?  Do we let Marshall do this show?  It’s sixty miles one way to rehearsals, that’s 120 miles round trip.  Seriously, how crazy is this going to be?  I have two conferences coming up, who is going to get him to rehearsal when I go out of town?  ~Did you notice I didn’t say anything like “Oh Yay You got the part you really, really wanted and congratulations son!”

Photo Credit: Marcigliano Photography
The Decision

We (my husband and I) made the decision to allow Marshall to take on this role.  It was supposed to challenge him.  This role would be unlike anything he has ever done.  I devised a plan.  I researched the library hours and found ways to entertain Cherrie while Marshall was in weekly rehearsals.  I made plans for the kids to stay with my cousin when I was going out of town.  I started making freezer meals.  Like I went nuts organizing my entire life in a way that would make any planner excited.  And then life happened.

I attended three business conferences, the kids had major projects to present to us on the civil rights era, we had a death in the family, I started counselling with a spiritual advisor and my marriage took a turn for the better.  The level of growth that was experienced over the last three months was amazing.  I juggled doctor’s appointments with Children’s Healthcare on our family’s weight loss (or current lack thereof) journey.  We started ACT prep courses, I made As in all my classes.  I maintained our weekly chiropractic visits and handled Cherrie’s narcolepsy episodes.  All of this in three months…

Fast forward to tonight.

It’s the evening after show number twelve (12).  Yup!  You read that right.  Marshall was Agwe, the God of Water for 2 weekends and a total of twelve shows.  The cast was amazing, and the directors were correct he absolutely did grow during this show.  We saw multiple shows in the Atlanta theatre circuit during this time and he even began working on his own show.  I managed to keep all nervous breakdowns to a minimum.  Our on the road travels got to the point we have a “regular order” at Starbucks, we’ve picked a new favorite Chic-fil-a and we anticipated seeing Isaac, the manager at Wendy’s after rehearsals on Friday nights.  Our life in the car became a new normal.

Don’t get me wrong, it wasn’t all bad.  We had fun trying out a few of the Marriott hotels in North Atlanta.  We started picking our stay based on the quality of their breakfast selection!  We had favorite libraries and tried many new restaurants.  At one point we were vlogging our weekend stays, but honestly, it was all too much.

I’m often asked why I allowed him to do this show?

Well, it’s simple.  There is no feeling like tearing up every single time you see your kid on a stage.  The chills that run down your spine when you close your eyes and imagine what it will be like the night he takes his first bows in his first Broadway show.  It’s for those moments that I live for.  It’s all apart of the process.  Being a momager requires sacrifice and a willingness to believe in your child the same way you believe in yourself.

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18 thoughts on “Being the Mother of a “God”

  1. Wow congratulations! And you did awesome by encouraging him. I agree it's a whole lot. The thought of alone is scary but I'm so excited it turned out really good.
    Posted on November 13, 2017 at 12:42 pm
  2. Awesome job to your baby. I really enjoyed this post and look forward to more. Congrats to you and the family and many blessings to all that is in store for you all.
    Posted on November 13, 2017 at 2:44 pm
  3. I absolutely love this story. It sounds like you went way above and beyond to get your son to his rehearsals and performances, but that's got to have been a life changing experience for him. (And here I felt good for driving me kids fifty miles each way to karate lessons twice a week!)
    Posted on November 13, 2017 at 2:57 pm
  4. I love this! Congrats to you mommy and son!
    Posted on November 17, 2017 at 8:44 am
  5. I love that you encouraged your son to participate and that you sacrificed so much time to support him and be his momager.
    Posted on November 17, 2017 at 9:50 am
  6. Congrats to you momager and Bravo to your child! Thanks for sharing this special moment with us! Leslie, SbeSavvy.com
    Posted on November 17, 2017 at 10:51 am
  7. Congrats to him! I'm sure you're extremely proud! Great to see parents encouraging their kids through 'non-conventional' routes!
    Posted on November 17, 2017 at 12:26 pm
  8. Congrats to your son! This is wonderful and you (and your husband) must be so proud of him. I really love your last statement, believe in your child the same way you believe in yourself and I agree!
    Posted on November 17, 2017 at 2:12 pm
  9. What a creative title. Sounds like your life has been a world wind for the past three months. Hopefully things will start to slow down a bit
    Posted on November 17, 2017 at 5:13 pm
  10. This is great. It's also wonderful that you allow your children to express themselves and do the things that they are passionate about
    Posted on November 19, 2017 at 9:06 pm
  11. This was a great experience for him and your family. Look s like a wonderful play. Love his costume.
    Posted on November 19, 2017 at 10:47 pm
  12. You are awesome parents and your son is amazing. Kudos to you all for letting your son take this role that meant so much to him. I wish I would of known I live in Atlanta would of loved to see this but heyyy karma is going to come back if your son becomes some celeb actor wink wink!
    Posted on November 20, 2017 at 3:06 am
  13. Wow! We homeschool too, and that "for the experience" business has me up and down the highway doing stuff with the kids that I mever imagined. Looks like an amazing experience though!
    Posted on November 20, 2017 at 3:58 am
  14. Congratulations to you and your son! I can only imagine how time consuming everything has been! It's so great you were able to support him in this endeavor!
    Posted on November 20, 2017 at 5:28 am
  15. So cool. Growing up I was a performer. Usually, I'm quiet and reserved but it's something about the stage that lures me. Growing up, I was allowed to only do local shows; unfortunately, my mom didn't drive. Therefore, my experience was cut short because of transportation. I say, if your kids have a talent cultivate it, it will help their confidence and self-esteem as they mature.
    Posted on November 20, 2017 at 7:39 am
  16. Wow! The role and strength it took to ensure that amount of work and effort...sheesh! Amazing that your son was able to accomplish his goal. Keep up that great work.
    Posted on November 20, 2017 at 8:36 am
  17. Wonderful job. I love seeing how families grow and support each other.
    Posted on November 21, 2017 at 6:18 am
  18. Good job! Congrats to you both on a show well performed. I know you're a proud mama!
    Posted on November 26, 2017 at 5:38 pm